I’M BORED IN MY MARRIAGE BECAUSE MY HUSBAND DOES NOT CHEAT SAYS A 40 YEAR OLD WOMAN

Most single woen and Married ones are searching for Mr Perfect, right? But maybe a little imperfection is better. Writer CLARE O’REILLY, 40, from Plymouth, married Jon, 46, 13 years ago and he has not put a foot wrong since.

Today, in a startlingly honest piece, Clare reveals why she is frustrated with being married to Mr Perfect . . .

“I should have got an inkling of my husband’s perfect moral fibre when we were dating back in 2002. I called in sick to work, planning to surprise him as he worked from home.

However, when I turned up with thoughts of a long, lazy, romantic lunch, he refused to ditch his responsibilities even though we were supposed to be in the first throes of love.

I married Mr Perfect anyway, but his ridiculous moral compass has come to be a bone of contention. Simply put, I’m bored of being married to a paragon of virtue.

He is so unlike me it’s disarming but it turns out I’m not alone. New research from the University of Amsterdam has found, while it is beneficial in Mother Nature for species to be similar, it is not as straightforward when it comes to humans.

Is there such a thing as a man being too perfect?

Clare is ‘bored’ of being married to a husband with a ‘ridiculous moral compass’Credit: Getty – Contributor
Don’t get me wrong, I love him and this year we celebrated 17 years together — 13 of them married — but I wish he’d lie, cheat, defame or slander just once, so that I could feel better about my own less-than-perfect character.

While the Amsterdam research didn’t define the term “moral incompatibility”, if it exists, we definitely have it. The research also found compatibility isn’t an “all or nothing” state.

Couples who are both early risers or both night owls tend to have longer relationships than those with opposing bedtime routines — so far, so obvious. But the study also found that we look for personality traits in a spouse or partner that we don’t possess, for example, being an extrovert.

While Jon is quiet and unassuming I’m the extrovert. He is definitely made up of all the traits I’m missing entirely. His moral compass will follow him into the grave, but no one will eulogise about my fair nature or loyal friendship.

Claire says Jon is ‘quiet and unassuming’ whereas she is the ‘extrovert’Credit:

I haven’t stayed friends with anyone from school while Jon’s tight-knit circle has been the same since he was ten. They are Godfathers to our kids Eddie, 15, Sammy, ten, and Annie, eight.

But it is not just his general decency that’s hard to stomach. He is a better spouse than I am. If I told him on Friday I was spending Saturday chilling at a spa, he’d probably drop me there so I didn’t have to drive, then take the kids to their clubs before making sure the house was tidy.

Just last week he went out with a friend for a long-planned pint and I was in a foul mood before he went because I had to put the washing away and make the kids packed lunches.

He is selfless to the same degree I’m selfish, which according to the research, can sometimes work. The worst part is that I’m constantly around a level of virtue that is completely unattainable in my own life.

By doing absolutely nothing other than being himself, Jon constantly makes me look at where I’m falling short and what I’m doing wrong without so much of an utterance. It is infuriating.

I know I’m fortunate to have such a decent, giving and kind chap but it is honestly exhausting being married to someone whose moral fibre is so perfect.”

Source: The Sun.

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